How Do You Manage Loneliness During the Holidays?

The holidays have always meant a lot to me, but I know this season can be really tough for many. Not everyone feels joyful this time of year, and that’s completely okay. Loneliness is more common than it seems, and it can feel even heavier during the holidays. I want to share some perspective that may help you navigate these feelings.

Holiday Blues

Many people feel sadness during the holidays, whether from a recent breakup, the loss of a job, the death of a loved one, or chronic depression. Sometimes, we avoid how we feel because we don’t want to experience the discomfort. It’s understandable, but the lengths we go to avoid these emotions can be harmful. Avoidance feels good, but it’s only a temporary fix. Our emotions are still there, no matter how hard we try to push them down. 

Emotions Are Signals

Trying to get rid of our emotions is like ignoring traffic lights while driving. When we are in a rush, that red light can feel like the enemy, and I think people feel the same way about their emotions. We label feelings like loneliness as negative when they are signals meant to guide us. Traffic lights tell us when to slow down, and sometimes an emotion as intense as loneliness does the same. It forces us to pause, check in with ourselves, and pay attention to what we need.

The Root Causes of Loneliness

Loneliness might be a reminder of what we need more of in our lives. Often, we feel lonely because we are disconnected from our needs. If we aren’t spending enough time with our loved ones or lack close relationships, we may feel lonely. If we have recently experienced the loss of someone we care about, we can feel alone. There are many reasons this emotion may come up. Instead of judging how we feel, let’s approach it with curiosity.

Curiosity over Judgement

While the holidays are often called “the most wonderful time of the year,” it’s okay if that’s not true for you. If you feel sad, allow yourself to feel sad. These emotions are temporary. Be curious about them and remember that they are just signals guiding you to what you need.