Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but doesn’t get you anywhere. While worry often feels unproductive, it serves a purpose. It’s a protective emotion that helps us stay alert to potential threats. The goal isn’t to eliminate worry, but to give it a productive outlet. That might mean writing down our thoughts and taking action where we can. Instead of getting rid of the rocking chair, we can learn how to use it wisely.
How Worry Helps Us Prepare
Our brain’s primary job is to keep us safe, and worrying is one way it responds to perceived threats. For example, if you’re facing a big presentation at work, worry might push you to practice and organize your materials. In this sense, worry can help us prepare for and resolve future challenges. The key, however, is remembering that we can only control what we do in the present moment. A helpful exercise is to write out your thoughts, then make a list of what you can control and what you cannot. By focusing on what you can control, you can approach challenges with greater confidence.
Lesson to My Younger Self
Worrying has always challenged me, but it has also pushed me to work harder. During my final year of college, I worried about passing a challenging accounting class, but instead of giving up, I focused on what I could control: showing up and doing my best. That effort paid off, and I graduated on time. Looking back, I would tell my younger self to focus on what I can control and have confidence in myself.
Focus on What You Can Control
Once you know what you can control, allow that to be your focus. When we shift from what’s out of our control to what’s in our control, we feel capable rather than powerless. If you are concerned about paying your bills, think about what you can control in this situation. You can control what you spend your money on and your source of income. From here, you can take action to improve your financial situation. Nothing is permanent if we are willing to make even small changes. We have the power to influence our circumstances.
Turn Worry into Productive Action
Worrying is often viewed as a negative emotion, but even this feeling can serve a purpose. The key is learning to use it to our advantage. Start by writing down your worries, then focus on what’s within your control and take small steps to improve your circumstances. Remember, worry needs something to do, so let it work for you, not against you.