Month: September 2025

Growing up, watching the news felt like watching a horror movie. I knew it was scary, but I couldn’t look away. There were things I saw that I wish I hadn’t. As an adult, I’ve learned that if the headline is triggering, I don’t need to click on the article. For me, protecting my peace means intentionally avoiding harmful content, environments, and people. What are you consuming that might be costing you peace?

The Hidden Cost of Social Media

If it costs you your peace, it is too expensive. When we think about our peace, how much of it is being taken away by the content we consume on social media? Research shows that excessive use of social media can increase symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress. It could be because we are comparing ourselves to others, experiencing cyberbullying, or isolating ourselves from the real world. Does this mean we should delete our social media accounts? Not necessarily. But becoming more mindful of how much time we spend on it might be the first step toward reclaiming our peace.

Boundaries = Peace

Is there someone or something outside of social media affecting your peace? A gossiping friend? A toxic work environment? Family drama? These are all things that can take a toll on your mental health. If there’s one word I believe is most helpful in situations like these, it’s boundaries. Setting a boundary could mean making a request, limiting your interactions, or even completely removing yourself from a harmful situation.

The next time you feel stressed about something, ask yourself: What boundary do I need to set? The next time you feel drained after a conversation with someone, pause and ask: What boundary could protect my energy next time? By setting boundaries, you safeguard your peace.

Make Peace with Yourself

Last but not least, be kind to yourself. Many of us don’t have peace with ourselves because we don’t believe we’re enough. But whether we realize it or not, we are enough. The moment we recognize our innate worth is the moment we discover true peace. Allow peace to be your standard, not just a preference.

There are 365 days in a year, which equals 8,760 hours. Yet, with all that time, we often fall short of our goals. Why is that? Sometimes, I think it’s because we leap when we can take a small step. Just because you have a big dream doesn’t mean you have to make a huge jump. How do you walk up the stairs? It’s one step at a time. The same mindset can apply to pursuing your dreams. All it takes is the courage to start and the consistency to keep going.

Stepping Stones Lead to Milestones

Walt Disney says we can fulfill our dreams if we have the courage to pursue them. For years, my blog was just a thought until I was brave enough to take action. While courage helped me begin, it was consistency that helped me grow. I set a goal to write weekly, and before long, I had published 100 posts. I think sometimes we forget that it’s the stepping stones that lead us to the milestone. With this in mind, what is one small step you can take to reach your goals?

Trusting the Process

While there is more than one way to achieve a goal, I think sometimes we skip important steps. Before I could launch my blog, I needed to identify my niche, choose a blog name, select a domain, and find a hosting provider. I didn’t rush through these steps; instead, I did thorough research to see what worked best for me. Although the process took longer, I still reached my goal. If we still get what we want, why does it matter how long it takes? The pressure we put on ourselves to achieve things by a certain time is what causes us to rush the process. If we learn to appreciate the process as much as the outcome, it could help us slow down.

Taking the First Step

We all have dreams, goals, and desires, but what’s stopping us from reaching them? Two things come to mind: a lack of courage and consistency. We need the courage to start and the consistency to grow. Think about something you want to achieve in the next year. Now, identify one action you can take each week to move toward that goal. Remember Walt Disney’s words: All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.

While many people strive to achieve success, others go to great lengths to avoid failure. But success doesn’t come without the lessons from failure. Instead of allowing failure to define us, we might consider what it can teach us. If we’re open to these lessons, we may discover resilience and an identity that goes beyond our accomplishments.

Embracing Failure as Part of the Process

Failure isn’t something to be embarrassed or ashamed of. Think about how we learned to walk as babies. We had to fall and get back up many times before we could walk confidently. As adults, we sometimes forget that learning anything new takes time, effort, and making mistakes. Too often, we put pressure on ourselves to be perfect because we’re afraid to fail. But failure is essential to growth. It’s how we learn, adapt, and improve.

The Power of Getting Back Up

How many times are you willing to get back up? The answer to this question is an indication of your resilience. The road to success has never been described as easy. However, if we persevere through the challenges, mistakes, judgments, and failures, we can ultimately reach success. Perfection isn’t the key to success; perseverance is. Your resilience will determine how successful you can become.

Resilience > Approval

We often don’t take risks because we are afraid to fail. If we fail, we believe people will judge us. While being judged doesn’t feel great, it doesn’t define who we are. In fact, taking risks shows courage and confidence. Although success is something we can be proud of, our identity is not limited to what we accomplish. We are still capable even in failure. We are still worthy even if people judge us.

Turning Setbacks into Stepping Stones

If you want to be successful in life, don’t be afraid to fail. Failure doesn’t define us; it’s how we respond to it that matters. One common trait among many successful people is resilience. Thomas Edison, Walt Disney, and Michael Jordan didn’t allow failure to hold them back. In fact, they allowed it to push them forward. By having the courage to fail and the strength to persevere, you can also become successful.

It’s one thing when people doubt you, but it’s another thing when you doubt yourself. Throughout life, I’ve experienced many moments of self-doubt. While fear gets a bad rep, it isn’t always the culprit. As a matter of fact, it’s the pressure we put on ourselves that makes us question who we are and what we can do. We often doubt ourselves because we push ourselves beyond who we believe we are. Some of us don’t know we’re great because we’re waiting on someone to tell us. Well, the wait is officially over. It’s time to look in the mirror and recognize the greatness that’s been there all along.

The Gift of Quiet Confidence

Some people will never know how special they are because no one ever told them. Not everyone becomes a movie star. Not everyone graces the cover of a magazine. Not everyone makes the Forbes list. But we don’t need the spotlight to shine. Our greatness doesn’t depend on how others see us. We often view ourselves not by who we are but by how others see us. If they don’t see our greatness, we don’t see it either. But maybe we can change that. Just because they don’t see our light doesn’t mean we’re not shining.

The Pressure to Be Perfect

When I think about self-doubt, I think about the pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect, or worse, like someone we’re not. It’s not that we aren’t capable; it’s that we often place unrealistic expectations on ourselves. What if our best is good enough? What if we were okay with being ourselves? What if we saw failure as an opportunity? What if we let go of who we think we should be? Often, “what if” is followed by the worst-case scenario, but what if we imagined a better one? We might discover that self-doubt can turn into self-confidence.

The Light Within

When I reflect on my life, college was the time I experienced the most self-doubt. It wasn’t because I didn’t know I was smart. It was because I didn’t know I could become something more: a college graduate. Despite my determination, I felt uncertainty about my future. I’ll never forget when my friend Alexis said to me, “You have a bright future.” Those words stayed with me, but I didn’t quite believe them until years later. The moment I stopped doubting myself, I saw the light. Not the light at the end of the tunnel, but the light within me. That was the turning point, when I finally recognized my capability. 

From Self-Doubt to Self-Confidence

Self-doubt is something we all experience at some point, but we don’t have to let it hold us back. It starts with letting go of who we think we should be and becoming comfortable with who we are. Imperfect yet capable. Different yet special. Scared yet brave. Self-doubt isn’t a sign of inadequacy; it’s a signal for growth. Are you willing to grow?